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Created: 12/07 06:28 am
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What makes life worth living?
A time comes in your life when u finally get it — when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head sayz 'ENOUGH!!' Enough fighting and whining or struggling to hold on. And like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs start to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world thru new eyes. like an awakening
You realize it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change or for happiness, safety, and security to come galloping over the next horizon.
You come to terms with the fact that you're neither prince charming nor cinderella. And that, in the real world, there aren't alwayz fairytale endings (or beginnings, for that matter). And that any guarantee of "happily ever after" has to begin with u — and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.
You wake up to the fact that you aren't perfect and that not everyone will alwayz love, appreciate, or approve of who or what u are...and that's fine. They're entitled to their own views and opinions.
And u learn the importance of loving and championing yourself — and in the process, a new sense of confidence is born of self approval. You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn't do for you) and u learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.
you learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say, and that not everyone will always be there for you, and that it's not alwayz about you. So you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself — and in the process, a sense of safety n security is born of self reliance.
You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and overlook their shortcomings and human frailties — and in the process, a sense of peace n contentment is born of forgiveness.
You realize that a lot of the way u view yourself and the world around u is a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into u. And you begin to sift through all the crap you've been fed about how u should behave, how u should look, what u should wear, what u should do for a living, how much money u should make, what u should drive, how and where u should live, who u should marry, and what u owe your parents, family, and friends.
you learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. and you begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for. You learn the difference between wanting and needing and u begin to get rid of the doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with — and in the process, u learn to go with your instincts.
You learn that it really is in giving that we receive. And that there's good times to be had in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life as just a "consumer" looking for your next fix.
You learn that principles like honesty and integrity are NOT the property of a particular religion or remnants of a bygone era, but the stuff that holds together the foundation on which u want to build ur life.
You learn that you don't know everything, it's not your job to save the world and that no u can't teach a pig to sing.
You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning when to quit. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you decide to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.
Then u learn about love. How to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away.
You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not how u wish they were. You stop trying to control people, situations, and outcomes. And you learn that alone doesn't mean lonely.
You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.
You learn that feelings of entitlement are totally okay, and that its right to want things and to ask for the things you want — and that sometimes its necessary to make demands.
You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love n respect and you won't settle for less.
You learn that anything worth having is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different from working toward making it happen. More importantly u learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline, and perseverance.
You also learn that no one can do it all alone -- and that it's ok to risk asking for help. You learn the only thing to really fear is fear itself.
You learn to step right into and through your fears because u know that whatever happens u can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms. And you learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.
You learn that life isn't always fair, u don't always get what you think you deserve, and that bad things sometimes happen to unsuspecting, good people. On those occasions you learn to not personalize things. You learn that no one's punishing you or leaving u hanging. It's just life happening. And u learn to deal with evil in its most primal state — the ego.
You learn that negative feelings like anger, envy, and resentment have to be understood and redirected or they'll choke the life out of u and everything around u.
You learn to admit when you're wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.
You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in all the little things we take for granted, things that millions of people on the earth can only dream about: a full fridge, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.
You start to take responsibility for yourself-- by yourself-- and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than what u want in ur heart.
And you hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind. And you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every possibility.
You take a stand. You take a deep breath, and u begin to live life the way u want to.
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